Butch lesbian dating
Even if the outside world perceives a couple as being “butch” that may not really be representative of the actual relationship.We tend to assume too much based solely on appearances.This is as true in lesbian relationships as they are in straight couples.The video also outlines how personality and dominance plays a role.As a butch woman, it is impossible to ignore the implication that, for certain people, women like me are the least attractive creatures on the planet.Umbrage-taking aside, however, the question raises the issue of whose standards of beauty apply in a queer female context. In fact, butch lesbians often do quite well when it comes to attracting female attention.While there are males out there with a penchant for butchness, the anecdotal evidence of my straight butch friend, not to mention the overwhelming femmeness of the women our mass media uses to attract male viewers and sell them products, strongly suggests that this is a somewhat rarer phenomenon.
This distinctive attitude and its charms may be due, in part, to the fact that every butch knows full well that she doesn't look the way most people expect women to look, and yet she's found the confidence to persevere in spite of the side-eyes and the disapproving thin-lipped faces of people marching past, eyes averted. In order to treat this question with the seriousness it deserved, I took the liberty of asking some of the more feminine, more conventionally attractive, lesbians of my acquaintance just what it is that makes butchness so darned irresistible.In the queer community, however, this is much less the case.Queer culture has always recognized, and celebrated, people who deviate from the gender norms imposed in the dominant heterosexual culture.The concept of asking “who is the top” has become as archaic as it is adorable in terms of overall ignorance.Important aspects like personality and having a real connection tend to strengthen relationships more than superficial traits.