How to keep him dating and not have sex
To be fair though, I receive thousands of emails each year from readers who are told all manner of variations of “I don’t want a relationship” or “I’m unavailable” or “I’m not interested/a jackass”…and they ignore it. Because they focus on the action and think “Well we’re having sex, they still text me, and we have so much fun together so obviously they do want a relationship.” No they don’t – actions and words must match. So many people ask me “Why are they still having sex with me then?” ‘Having’ is like implying like you have nothing to do with it.It’s not cute, it’s not cool, and it’s actually disrespectful, but it is all the more reason why you shouldn’t use sexual involvement as a barometer for the relationship you want or what you feel someone’s feelings are.It also doesn’t matter if you want more; if they don’t and you continue to sleep with them, they assume you are on their terms.
You should be asking “Why are we still sleeping together if they have shown or communicated their disinterest or have shown or communicated that they don’t want the relationship that I’ve said that I want?Great chemistry is hard to come by, so when you meet a guy you click with, all you can think about is having sex with him.Problem number one: Once you give up the goods, you lose the upper hand in the dating power dynamics.But once you discover that someone’s interest isn’t mutual and that they don’t want the relationship you want, it’s time to pull your pants up and flush them out of your life.Persisting will leave you feeling devalued – something you can be spared from if you don’t let your ego or libido blind you.