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Please read this other post before commenting to gain clarity on my gender-neutral position on human behavior.] —– A while back I was on a coaching call with a woman who happens to be smart, successful and beautiful. Granted, knowing how “approach anxiety” has a death grip on most mortal men, it’s not even like I was expecting to witness guys stopping bikini-clad hotties and getting their numbers.
We were actively discussing creative ways she might encourage the kind of man she deserves to introduce himself, start a conversation and sweep her off of her feet. The odds of seeing a jaguar in the wild in Florida are probably greater than that.
In other words, it’s not just “don’t touch”, it’s “don’t even LOOK”.
The sobering thought that comes to mind here is that this factor alone is moving our culture from an epidemic fear of approaching women to an equally pandemic state of being afraid to even LOOK at them. When was the first time you remember encountering the adjective “rapey” to describe certain male behavior? 2) The Ubiquity Of Porn This one is about as simple to throw on the table as it gets.
Hell, I remember guys in pickup trucks hanging out of windows and hollering at my MOM when I was about four or five years old.So nobody is suggesting we revert to real, genuine sexual harassment. In my completely random opinion—which is pure conjecture, mind you—I can think of at least three factors that may be conspiring here.1) Fear Of Seeming Predatory The subtle (or at times blatant) message presented to men in the 21st century is that any display of sexual interest in a woman is considered “sexual harassment”.Do you agree that we don’t even notice each other anymore? This may shock you, given what you’ve just read, but did you know that women are probably noticing YOU all the time?Or is it that we’re simply a lot more subtle about it, whether that be due to sophistication or plain old fear? Do you see men admiring women all the time where you live? They’re even sending you signals that are clear as a bell.